Time is harder to hold on to than water with greasy hands. Earlier this year a weird realization came over me. It stopped me in my tracks and I have spent time over many late nights trying to digest it. I have known my wife, Meta, longer than I knew my mother. I have been carnal with Meta longer than I knew my mother and in three more years I will have been married longer than I k was my mothers child. It left me rather unsettled.
Its been during this time that I have struggled with quitting smoking. Mom and Dad both smoked thou it was a car that killed Mom not tobacco. There are far sadder stories than mine and I did learn a great deal about finite mortal living. I passed my 50th birthday which has driven to me to try and figure out what I have learned in this life and hope that it is something worth sharing. I’m kind of a freak as it is, sort of a walking anomaly.
So my love affair with tobacco, cuz that’s what it is, an affair. First thing, those anti smoking advertisements must be aimed at non smokers because every time I see one I can’t fight the urge to light up. What’s the deal with that anyway? Is it possible that some clever marketing man figured out away to fulfill the tobacco settlement and advertise smokes on television?
Damn if that doesn’t sound paranoid.
I want to say, for the record. that I do not disagree with the statement that cigarettes pose a serious risk to my own health and the health of others, and that tobacco, especially factory tobacco is addictive. I am addicted. But I also like smoking. The weird thing is that the audio, visual and tactile effects of being schizophrenic (hallucinations, illusions or delusions) get worse while I am quitting. I barely leave the apartment as it is. This isn’t an effort to convince anyone of anything, just is whether you believe it or not. It seems these symptoms get worse now then before dialysis (That’s a whole other story for another time.)
The loss of my Mom taught me to get to know the people you care about before you loose each other cuz at some point it will happen. You will lose each other. Know your beloved gives you better memories and less shoulda, woulda. coulda than the alternative, say it later. Regardless of the conditions of the day always end your time by saying “I love you,” if indeed you do. While I was dealing with kidney failure I was terrified that Meta and I would ppart ways before I coulld say it to her one last time. I wasn’t afraid of the fatal moment. What frightened me was the idea that I woulpd goo with out taking the sound, touch and her image with me.
Total corn but true none-the-less.
I am not quitting smoking for my health nor Meta. This is the simple contradiction of being human…to be smart enough to know the right road to take but not wise enough to take it. I am not quitting because I want to and no I don’t have cancer. Its the economy that’s provides the motivation. It irks me to use a charge card to buy tobacco and food prices have blown through the roof. I use to be able to smoke and eat less but cigarette prices have gotten outrageous as well. The whole mess is a real cash bonanza if you’re a member of the right group. Yet a best I can manage two days before I cave.
It might just be a case of Akrasia (I don’t think I spelled that right) or weakness of the will. The problem is that I don’t want to quit smoking, I have to quit smoking. I’m not interested in vapping, the patch or the gum….seems self defeating to me to use nicotine to quit nicotine. The trick is to keep busy, my hands and my mind and have plenty too eat. By the way, celery and carrot sticks don’t cut it, chocolate is better, besides its a mood altering drug in its own right.
The stress is probably the hardest thing but there is the dulling of mental agility and I lose the ability to keep track of time. That last one is a major pain in the ass.
I haven’t given up yet. I’m going to take another run at it tomorrow. I have a doctors appointment on Tuesday. If I make it past that and don’t find myself on a three day pass and manage bot to smoke. …Well, that would be a big deal. I don’t like to think that far ahead though, not when it comes to Tobacco.
Hope you are well,