We each study the world outside of ourselves and the others who inhabit it with a careful eye. We hold in our mind a stick. It is with this thing that we measure ourselves and use as a point of comparison with those who live beyond us. Some are smarter, stronger, richer, prettier or more popular and in the spectrum of things it matters not except with respect to that stick we hold in our mind. This stick could be short or long, thin or fat and when it comes down to the point it is practically useless as a tool of measurement except in that it provides data. This raw data drawn from the point of comparison must be interpreted and here in lies the catch.
The stick is constructed of materials found in a great dark place, swampy and fetid it is that space that all people go to find the stick they will use to measure their lives and value with. Its is there among the decaying good deeds, rotten best intentions and slippery and poisonous expectations that we may find this stick. It is a permanent leaning into the dark and that is a weight we must deal with.
We can choose to interpret our data darkly or lightly and these methods of study can be simple or complex in the extreme. These things, these structures of thought are based on assumptions and definitions. We can choose assumptions, definitions, or reasons that are self-centered, picked on, singled out, lonely hopeless things and in that way they blind us. They leave us living in an evil world where everyone is out to get us, against us and that we are alone. We can also chose the opposite. Generally people don’t like to choose the opposite, being hated and picked on and facing a cruel world has a seductive quality like a cigarette or a gun. It feels good and it is self reinforcing. In this way we chose to believe the worst of the hearts and minds of our fellow human beings. This is a choice about a thing of which we can know nothing, the heart and mind of another human being, even our selves is a thing we can know very little or nothing about. The greater world beyond is much the same, just because a reason exists doesn’t mean you’ll ever know or understand it. This is a thing that is unfathomable and in order to believe you must make a leap. You could choose to leap into the darkness or into the light and once the leap is made it will change the way the very world looks sounds and feels to you.
I once heard a person, on the radio say, that as your attitude improves and becomes more positive than good things will appear for you…much like magic. This idea is not correct inherently, things don’t appear and disappear like magic. They were always there and the only thing that has changed is a person’s ability to see these good things. This is what being blessed is about.
Being Blessed is difficult as so many that share this world with us are dark and play to the dark…after all its good for sales. This darkness wants to creep back into your heart and extinguish the light there much like a lonely candle faced with a hurricane. It takes effort and can be seen as a form of prayer, it is the idea that everyday there are wonders in the world there for anyone with the determination and fortitude to simply see. Much like the knight of faith from Kierkegaard’s work FEAR AND TREMBLING you live in the glory of a gentle kind world that, even in your worse times, offers simple gifts and blessings, gentle caresses of a smooth cool breeze just before dawn in the shadow world before the sun first shows is light.
Being Blessed is simply walking in Blessedness, seeing the beauty and kindness and relishing it as for many of us it is only small things that we are given. So throw away the stick and be in the moment and walk in the blessings you are given, like rain on a dry day, a smile from a strange, a gentle word, a precious moment of time or a shared song or meal.
For beginnings let me show you how…
Say to yourself or to the air the following words: IAM BLESSED… You have to finish the sentence. I’ll give you a few examples from my own existence.
I AM BLESSED By A wife that has taught me that a thing can be good even though it isn’t new.
I AM BLESSED by a wife that taught me that treasures can be found in the bottom of a dumpster.
I AM BLESSED By knowing to take pride in the work of my hands and how I am rather than my money and prestige.
I AM BLESSED as I have learned not to resent other people for decisions I have made
I AM BLESSED By being able to learn to cook from scratch, by myself.
I AM BLESSED by making my first action in any situation, hesitation.
I AM BLESSED by the kindness of strangers.
I AM BlESSED that my health isn’t worse.
I AM BLESSED with a wife I can spend eternity with.
I AM BLESSED with a sense of child like wonder in the world I live, that spreads from birds on the wing to rude squirrels and the colorful leaves of fall.
I AM BLESSED like the simple pansy, I live without pain or toil and am resilient from the most crushing blow.
I AM BLESSED with plenty of space in my heart to love many people.
I AM BLESSED that my enemies are far fewer than my friends.